Love in 3d
Bishop Henry Fernandez Preached on 2/14/2023First Corinthians 13
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Summary
Bishop Henry Fernandez explores 'Love in 3D,' teaching that a healthy life requires loving God first, loving oneself second, and only then being equipped to love others authentically.
Key points
- •Authentic love for others is impossible without first having a devoted, faithful love for God.
- •You must love and value yourself, accepting how God created you, before you can truly love your neighbor.
- •A person's faithfulness to God is the primary indicator of their potential faithfulness in human relationships.
- •Low self-esteem and identity crises hinder a believer's ability to serve at their best within the body of Christ.
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Purpose
Character
Community
Life application
This week, evaluate your 'love walk' with God by examining your daily habits of prayer, scripture reading, and giving to see if He is truly your first priority.
Reflection questions
- In what ways have you been trying to love others while neglecting your own relationship with God?
- What specific things about yourself have you struggled to accept, and how does knowing you are 'fearfully and wonderfully made' change that?
- How does a lack of self-love manifest in how you treat your spouse, children, or colleagues?
- Why is it dangerous to 'force open doors' that God has closed in your relationships?
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Full transcript
0:00would you all stand for a moment all
0:03over the building
0:05if you would just stand for a moment as
0:07we get into this world
0:10and do me a favor just lift both hands
0:12towards heaven right now
0:15that's your spiritual antennas
0:19pointing in the right direction David
0:21said I would look to the Hills
0:24from whence cometh my help
0:27you never look for help downward
0:32if you're like me my parents would
0:34always say hold your head up
0:36there's just something about looking
0:38towards heaven father today
0:42we give you praise for Every Mountain
0:47you have allowed us to speak to
0:52and declare that you are good
0:55and that your mercy endureth forever
1:00there are many in this room and
1:03there are thousands watching right now
1:08and father I ask that Lord that you will
1:11speak directly to all of us
1:14that in this hour there's something you
1:17want us to know
1:19and we're ready and prepared to receive
1:21it now think with my mind and speak with
1:25my vocal cords so that as I speak
1:29whatever Heaven is releasing
1:32we will receive it now
1:35heal hearts
1:37give us instructions
1:39and how to live
1:41successfully here on the Earth
1:45and for that we give you praise in Jesus
1:48mighty name amen come on let's give them
1:50a praise
1:52[Music]
1:55be seated
1:56[Music]
2:01since we are dealing with the month of
2:04February and as someone said it before
2:07that there's so many things happening in
2:11the month of February apart from the
2:13Super Bowl
2:15we're addressing Black History Month
2:18and we're also dealing with
2:21love
2:25from your life
2:27it it will cost you
2:30when you don't love the person you're
2:32with genuinely according to the word of
2:35God that the relationship is going to
2:38suffer
2:39Generations will suffer if this church
2:43don't practice genuine love then the
2:47body of Christ is going to suffer
2:50because the unbeliever who is in
2:53desperate need of this authentic love
2:55won't come in to find it because if they
2:58come in the church and find the same
3:01criticism the same backbiting the same
3:04devilish attitudes sneaky people in the
3:07church
3:08blind people in the church people cut
3:10throat people would hurt you why would
3:13they want to come
3:16if they're going to deal with that stay
3:18out in the world and deal with that but
3:20you want don't want to come into church
3:21to deal with it it doesn't mean however
3:24that we're not humans and we won't do
3:26some dumb silly stupid stuff
3:29but you know very well a lot of the
3:31practices that's happening in the church
3:33that's killing the body of Christ
3:36it is because of the absence of love
3:40that's what it is
3:42we're trying to love like the world
3:45so I want to share with you that love in
3:483D number one is it's about you loving
3:52God first let me deal with that
3:59love in
4:02you loving God first
4:05and I want you to listen because I'm
4:07about to make some bold statements now
4:10and I want you to understand this it is
4:13impossible for you
4:16to love authentically
4:19without loving God
4:25I promise you you cannot love
4:29people
4:30unless you first love God
4:35you can't
4:37there's no way you can love your parents
4:41until you love God first
4:43there's no way you can love the person
4:45you're dating let me deal with that a
4:48little bit
4:49there's no way
4:51you can love the person that you're
4:53dating and you not loving God first
4:57so I suggest to you if you're dating I
4:59don't care if it's a month I don't care
5:01if it's a year
5:03have a longer dating before you say I do
5:09please I ask you you need to examine
5:13your own life and see what your love
5:16walk is with God first
5:18because watch this
5:20if you love God occasionally
5:28if you're not fully devoted to God
5:31thank you Holy Spirit
5:34if you don't find it a necessity
5:39to get up every day and read something
5:43about God
5:45if you don't find it a necessity to talk
5:50to him every day praying to him
5:54constantly every day if you don't find
5:57it a necessity to go into his house and
6:01to worship him and to honor him if you
6:05don't find it a necessity to give to God
6:09out of what he has blessed you with I
6:12promise you you will not be faithful to
6:15that woman you're dating you will not be
6:17faithful to that man you're dating
6:24that's why you need to find out from
6:26that person
6:27how is your love walk with God
6:32how often do you talk to him
6:35because if you let a day go by and you
6:38don't talk to him you don't read the
6:40Bible and so forth I promise you you're
6:43not gonna find it a necessity to always
6:47want to talk to me throughout the day
6:50you'll be a man missing in action
6:53[Applause]
6:56and I know many of you may refute this
6:58you may not like this
7:01but when a man is when a man struggled
7:05to give five dollars in the offering
7:08when a man is struggling he's come up
7:10with all kinds of excuses I ain't giving
7:12no preacher my money ain't giving no
7:13church my money when he come up with all
7:16of that trust me baby he gonna find a
7:18reason why he ain't supposed to give you
7:21money
7:24it's a love thing
7:27when you love God first
7:30it's easy to love people
7:35don't shout me down now
7:37I'm almost there now
7:39you got to love God first
7:42when you love God then you love your
7:44spouse
7:45you love your children
7:47according to First Corinthians 13.
7:51but you have to have that love for God
7:53because that love for God will make you
7:56look to people who despitefully use you
7:59and say all man of evil against you and
8:02bless them
8:03[Applause]
8:07what made you do that it's not you
8:11it's because you love him first
8:15talk to me here now
8:17so love in 3D starts with you loving God
8:21first
8:24how's your love walk with God
8:27how is your love walk with God I'm not
8:30asking you
8:32about religion now
8:35because so often the Corinthians Church
8:37the Faith Center or whatever Church you
8:40go to so often we mix up
8:45our denomination
8:48our organization
8:50we mix it up
8:52with who God is
8:55when was the last time you talked with
8:57him
8:58when was the last time you read
9:01his love letter to you
9:04the Bible
9:07when was the last time you gave him
9:10something
9:13when was the last time after every
9:15prayer you prayed for every Pastor you
9:18asked to pray for you every church
9:20service you've come to and you say I've
9:22been blessed
9:24when was the last time
9:27you say thank you even through the given
9:30of an offering
9:34don't tell me you will walk into a
9:36restaurant
9:38eat their food and walk out
9:40we said well Pastor what this got to do
9:42how do you breathe
9:45come taste and see
9:49that my lord is good
9:51out of the abundance of your heart
9:55then you express your gratitude
9:58no wonder why we have this generation no
10:01wonder we why we have so many women who
10:05are hurting
10:07good women
10:09who are hurting they wanted to write
10:13they just want to show their love they
10:16want a man to lead
10:20but they can't trust him
10:23they cannot trust him every time she'd
10:27give him the ball to do a touchdown he
10:30fumbles the ball
10:38he can run with it
10:41because he gets distracted
10:44because his love walk with God
10:46it's wavering
10:50doesn't love God
10:52love the super Super Bowl more than he
10:54loves God he loved toys he loved he
10:57loves his Sports he loved other things
10:59more than he loves God but once you love
11:01God
11:03it takes it to a whole nother dimension
11:07number two after loving God first you
11:09have to then love yourself
11:12now wait a minute people will say
11:14because I want to close it off now with
11:17a scripture
11:18that most of you would say no
11:21the Bible says you ought to deny
11:23yourself
11:25Abba says you're going to prefer
11:28others over yourself
11:31and that is why slavery went on for so
11:34long
11:37because most of you weren't aware of
11:39this
11:41but the slave masters
11:43use the Bible
11:46to keep black people
11:49enslaved
11:52they took out scriptures
11:56to build a narrative
12:00humble yourself and submit to your
12:03masters
12:05to keep us in Chains
12:08but you're not to love yourself
12:11that we were born to idolize people
12:16in Matthew 22 begin at verse 34.
12:20hearing that Jesus had silent the
12:23Sadducees and the Pharisees
12:26when they got together
12:28here's what the Bible says one of them
12:30one one of the religious it wasn't
12:32ungodly people one of the religious
12:34people an expert of the law these are
12:38the people who are strict
12:40prick law givers
12:44tested Jesus had the nerve to do that
12:48Jesus what is the greatest commandment
12:51in the law Jesus answered love the Lord
12:54your God with all your heart
12:58and with all your soul watch this and
13:01with all your might
13:03this is the first and greatest
13:05commandment and the second is like this
13:08now watch this now and this is where
13:10people now misquote this for years
13:16Jesus says love your neighbor so people
13:20run
13:21live people love others over yourself
13:24but you forget the last part of it love
13:27your neighbor as you love yourself you
13:30cannot love people if you don't First
13:32Love Yourself
13:35get the revelation
13:38put value on yourself
13:42love yourself love the skin you're in
13:45love the sex you're in love your height
13:48love yourself the day you begin to love
13:52yourself nobody will ever take your
13:54dignity away from you love yourself
13:59love who you are
14:03so love in 3D says love yourself man
14:06love God first love who you are
14:10people don't like you tough luck
14:14just love yourself
14:17love who you are appreciate your beauty
14:22many people are struggling with low
14:24self-esteem
14:26identity crisis
14:29love yourself look in the mirror and say
14:31I love me
14:33I love begin the moment you begin to
14:36love yourself because you love God and
14:38you know God created you because I'm
14:41telling you you're looking at a dude man
14:42I'm telling you one time I didn't like
14:44me
14:47and most of you you tell the truth
14:48that's true
14:50I didn't like me
14:53there was a lot of things about me I
14:55didn't like maybe that's shocking to you
14:58I didn't like me
15:00but when I fell in love with the maker
15:03of Henry
15:06and I then accept the fact there's a
15:09reason why he made me the way I am
15:12there's a reason why he put me in a
15:15black skin there's a reason why he gave
15:18me the shape that I have there's a
15:20reason why he gave me my swag there's
15:23something about me there's a reason why
15:25I love me some Henry
15:29you ought to say to yourself I love me
15:32some and call your name
15:34love yourself
15:38love everything about you
15:44he said love your neighbor but as you
15:47love yourself
15:49maybe that's why you're treating your
15:51neighbor that way
15:53because you don't even love yourself
15:56so therefore you treat your neighbor
15:58real bad
16:00finally
16:02loving 3D after loving God first
16:05loving yourself
16:07now you're equipped to loving others
16:13now you're equipped to loving others
16:16you can
16:18do not marry that person
16:21if you don't
16:23settle that issue with loving God
16:27first
16:28won't you marry that person
16:30if you're still broken
16:34if you still have an identity crisis
16:36going on in your head
16:39won't you mess up that woman's life that
16:41man's life
16:42if you don't like you
16:45because how can you give yourself to
16:48that person
16:49if you don't even like what you're given
16:52[Applause]
16:59love yourself
17:02but now you can love others
17:05now you can
17:07Stretch Your Love towards
17:10the world no matter the color of their
17:12skin no matter how messed up they are no
17:15matter their actions
17:17you love
17:20let me invite a few of you to do
17:23something this morning
17:26to enter into an environment of love in
17:293D
17:32you say Pastor I find myself I I think
17:35I'm a little bit short with my love walk
17:37with god well this message was for you
17:42can I tell you something
17:44because you won't walk in with God the
17:46way you should
17:49you weren't at your best self
17:52that's why you're struggling the way
17:54you're struggling
17:57the people who God has entrusted you
17:59with that's why you can't take your
18:01children the way you should you're
18:03struggling in parenting
18:08your kids are struggling they're
18:10developing you are the model that
18:12they're following
18:14and you're only at 50 percent
18:19what are you doing to your kids pray the
18:22cycle
18:24love God
18:26I'm beginning to love who you are
18:30and then watch how you will love people
18:32authentically
18:34you say Pastor I don't I think I'm
18:36struggling that area
18:39I want to pray for you this morning what
18:41about those of you I know what God told
18:43me
18:45and I'm going to say it to you
18:47and I hope you would respond this
18:49morning
18:51as I Was preparing this message God told
18:54me Henry there are people in the room
18:56and people are streaming
19:00they are struggling
19:02with themselves
19:05they honestly
19:08don't know who they are
19:10and they don't truly love themselves
19:16he says I want you to pray for them this
19:19morning
19:22I don't want you to feel ashamed I never
19:26used to like me
19:32so I'll be the first to tell you
19:35God delivered me from low self-esteem
19:39[Music]
19:40and this guy is going to die
19:45of being Henry Fernandez
19:48[Music]
19:51I want you to die proud
19:55that you took care of this
19:58whomever you are
20:00you took care of this
20:02you got to fix that part of you
20:05if not
20:06the person you're with
20:08the children you're supposed to take
20:11care of
20:12the career that you're in
20:14the body of Christ you can't effectively
20:17be at your best
20:20if you don't love you
20:22so as you hear in this sermon and you
20:25feel God spoke directly to you
20:29you want to give yourself a Valentine's
20:31gift
20:33and you want to change the view of Who
20:35You Are
20:37move out of your seat you don't care who
20:40watching you
20:41I want to pray with you because I've
20:45been there pastor
20:48I want you to pray for me this morning
20:51that I get delivered from this issue of
20:54struggling with my identity come on down
20:56move quickly move quickly move quickly
21:00move quickly come on move quickly
21:04move quickly move quickly move quickly
21:08as they're saying and move quickly I
21:10want to pray with you then I'll let you
21:11go
21:12I want to pray with you I want to pray
21:15with you you got to believe man
21:18you are fearfully and you're wonderfully
21:20made
21:22you're not an afterthought
21:26God loved you enough that he designed
21:29you the way you are so wherever you are
21:32come on quickly
21:34come on sing sing it sing it sing it
21:38sing it sing it
21:40bless you bless you bless you
21:43bless you bless you
21:46bless you
21:48I'm still waiting still waiting
21:52I'm still waiting
21:54[Music]
21:55thank you thank you Lord
21:58bless you Lord
22:01bless you bless you God bless you God
22:03bless you God
22:06bless you God bless you one more time I
22:09I'm gonna wait I'm gonna wait
22:13I still see people coming down
22:17God bless you God bless you
22:21thank you Lord
22:24thank God thank you Lord
22:27thank God hallelujah thank you
22:34sure
22:45foreign
22:47[Applause]
23:02[Music]
23:27I want to say this to you this morning
23:31thank you for coming down
23:34took a lot for you to do this
23:37because you know the human mind well I
23:39don't want people to think
23:41you know really I was struggling with
23:43low self-esteem
23:45one of the things I can tell you
23:47sweetheart
23:47[Music]
23:49I don't know why we church people fake
23:52things
23:53so well
23:55we cover up
23:56maybe because we don't trust each other
24:01see when we're a family
24:04family embrace you no matter what
24:07[Applause]
24:10so I don't want you everything for a
24:13moment
24:15that this is the environment that should
24:17judge you
24:19and try to figure out I wonder really I
24:22wonder
24:23we're a family
24:27we are here
24:29to be better
24:30[Music]
24:32and you have indicated in whatever areas
24:34of your life you feel that you're not at
24:37your best
24:38I want to pray with you I think I am
24:40anointed to do that because I've been
24:42there
24:44I've been there
24:46oh I have been there
24:49but I fell in love with him first
24:53and the moment I did that
24:56I realized wait a minute
24:58[Music]
25:00fearfully and wonderfully made man
25:03[Music]
25:05you made some mistakes okay fine
25:10that's the reason why Jesus came he
25:12didn't come for the perfect
25:15once you fall in love with him and you
25:17realize that man goodness man you're who
25:20you are accept who you are and don't
25:24force people to love you
25:28Don't Force even family
25:31that day can be the worst
25:35Don't Force nobody to love you
25:37none
25:39I know especially if you've invested
25:41time into someone
25:43time and energy
25:45[Music]
25:46unless let's be honest some of you
25:49you've given your body
25:52all of that
25:54and you know listen
25:57oh thank you Lord
25:59[Music]
26:01when a door closed
26:04Don't Force open that door
26:08[Music]
26:10when God closed a door
26:12don't force open that door you're going
26:16to make have put some value on your life
26:21unfortunately
26:24value Who You Are
26:26and if there is a God
26:28he's going to let you walk
26:31in the path of righteousness
26:33[Music]
26:34I'm telling you I'm going to pray with
26:36you I want those of you out there since
26:38you're not down here you're fine you're
26:41gonna help me pray for them
26:42so we'll just stretch your hands towards
26:44them now those of you are streaming
26:46maybe you've identified that you're
26:48you're part of those people are here
26:50unfortunately you're not here to come
26:51down here I want to pray for you too
26:53father as a body
26:55we stretch our hands towards these
26:58people you know every man every woman
27:00every child that's standing here today
27:03you know what part of the message
27:04connected with them
27:07I pray that they'll begin to love in 3D
27:12they'll make that connection with you
27:13right now they'll surrender their lives
27:15to you
27:16they'll serve you in sincerity
27:19they'll accept your love
27:22that while they're imperfect you died
27:25for them
27:26that they'll accept the way you've
27:28created them
27:31that whatever is within within our reach
27:34to change physically mentally then we do
27:38our part other than that you created us
27:40this way
27:42and that we accept
27:45I pray that they'll begin to love
27:46themselves
27:49I know what you said to me yesterday
27:52when you told me this altar call I must
27:55pray for people who are struggling with
27:57their identity struggling
27:59with appreciating who they are
28:02so father I pray corporately with this
28:05church for people are streaming would
28:08you touch them heal them in their
28:10Brokenness heal them in their
28:12uncertainty help them to Value who they
28:15are help them to understand better days
28:18are coming help them to understand their
28:21future is already set brighter days are
28:23ahead of them the devil wants to cheat
28:26them out of what's in the future but we
28:29come against them now in the name of
28:31Jesus and we Speak Life
28:34to each and every one of them every man
28:37every woman
28:39we ask you to bless them now
28:41that when they leave here
28:43they'll know how to love people better
28:46teach his father how to love others
28:48because we first love you we then love
28:50ourselves help us to love everybody else
28:54even when they're different from us even
28:57when their opinions are different from
28:59us even though their personality can be
29:02overbearing teach us how to love no
29:06matter what
29:07teach us how to be at our best and to
29:09love in 3D teach this church how to be a
29:14Healing Center
29:15teach us how not just to speak about it
29:18but to act it out to love
29:21unconditionally no matter what so father
29:24we give you all the praise we give you
29:27all the glory and the honor in Jesus
29:30name amen come on put your hands
29:32together and thank God
29:33for that word
29:35[Applause]