7 Things That Will Destroy Your Destiny
Bishop Henry Fernandez Preached on 6/4/2019Psalms 138:8
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Summary
Bishop Henry Fernandez outlines seven critical traps-ranging from lack of knowledge to wrong relationships-that can detour or destroy your God-given destiny, emphasizing the need for wisdom, planning, and integrity to reach your ultimate destination.
Key points
- •Destiny is your ultimate God-ordained purpose, while a destination can often be a detour that wastes time and delays your arrival at your true calling.
- •Respecting the wisdom and experience of elders is vital for avoiding pitfalls; a generation that refuses to listen to those who have walked the path before them often faces unnecessary disaster.
- •True success requires a combination of spiritual maturity and practical knowledge, including education and professional qualifications, to dominate and influence the world for the Kingdom.
- •Integrity is a critical currency for destiny; if people cannot trust your word, they become a barrier to the blessings and opportunities God wants to flow through them into your life.
- •Relationships are either assets or liabilities; marrying the wrong person based only on temporary feelings rather than shared purpose can lead to life-long misery and the destruction of one's destiny.
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Life application
This week, identify one area of your life where you have been operating without a plan and create a concrete five-year goal. Additionally, seek out a mentor or elder to ask for advice on a specific challenge you are currently facing, choosing to listen more than you speak.
Reflection questions
- In what areas of my life am I currently taking a detour that is delaying me from my God-given destiny?
- Am I currently an asset or a liability in my most important relationships, and how can I increase my value to others?
- Do I have a 'plan-agenda' for my life, or am I simply living one day at a time without direction?
- Are there areas where I am relying on 'superstition' rather than pursuing the knowledge and education needed to be competitive in my field?
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Full transcript
0:07seven things that will destroy your
0:09destiny go with me to the Book of Psalms
0:11138 verse
0:16Psalm 138 verse 8 the Bible says
0:21the Lord will perfect that which
0:25concerning me
0:29thy mercies O Lord
0:32endureth forever
0:35forsake not the works of thine own hands
0:39I want to repeat that again the Lord
0:43will perfect that which concern it me
0:47thy mercy O Lord endured forever forsake
0:52not the works of thine own hands
0:57now when we talk about destiny we're
1:01talking about your destination
1:05your destiny is your destination however
1:09it is not always true that your
1:15destination is
1:17always your destiny ok let me say that
1:21again it is not always a truth that your
1:25destiny or your destination I should say
1:29is your destiny because you see you can
1:33start out from one point and
1:36have every intention of ending up at
1:40another point and somehow you took a
1:44detour for example if you were to travel
1:48from South Florida let's say the Miami
1:51area and you were in route to New York
1:54you would drive in now for those of you
1:57that are watching around the world let
1:59me just give you a little idea about
2:01this journey because you may not be
2:03familiar with the route now in order to
2:06get to New York the only route that I
2:08know of is I 95 that's a highway that
2:11takes you straight into New York from
2:14Miami now if you're going from Miami to
2:18New York now your
2:21destination is
2:23New York that's your destiny
2:27that's where you set out to though you
2:30want to end up in New York now you can
2:34start on your journey and on 95
2:37you got to Orlando Florida which is in
2:40route and that's fine you may stop get
2:43gas and look around and everything was
2:45perfect with you and then not only that
2:49somehow you decided that what you're
2:52going to do is that you're going to take
2:5695 and you're going to continue to
2:58Jacksonville Florida and as you go to
3:00Jacksonville Florida you decided that
3:04what you're going to do is while at
3:06Jacksonville Florida you've decided that
3:09you are going to stop maybe at another
3:13gas station and pick up gas now that you
3:17stopped at that gas station pick up gas
3:19you decided that well let me instead of
3:23going on i-95 I am going to take another
3:26route let's say you end up on a highway
3:30that will take you west now if any one
3:33of you that know that this the the route
3:36to New York from South Florida you know
3:39New York is east of the United States
3:41now any road that goes west won't end
3:45you up in New York
3:48so somehow you took a detour now for
3:53whatever reason you took that detour you
3:55ended up maybe in Dallas Texas and you
3:59recognized that you're in the wrong
4:01state and you decide that okay I need to
4:05get back to the east side of town so
4:08somehow you took another freeway and you
4:11got back on i-95 and then you end up in
4:14New York now what took place here you
4:17need to understand this your destiny was
4:20New York but one of your destination was
4:23Dallas Texas but your destination was
4:26not necessarily your destiny now
4:30what happens you may have gotten to New
4:33York eventually but what you have done
4:36you are waste
4:38Oh
4:40help me here today you have wasted time
4:44you got to New York but because of your
4:47detour because you detour it caused you
4:51to detour for a couple of hours or a
4:53couple of days and you end up missing
4:55your destination and your destiny and
4:59get in there at the right time what are
5:02you saying pastor I'm saying God has
5:05intended every one of us to get to our
5:07destiny and many of us are wasting time
5:11look at somebody and tell them I need to
5:13get to my destiny
5:16see most of us only want to end up to a
5:20destination we want to go to a
5:22destination I want to get to this place
5:25where this is my destination and not
5:28necessarily your destination is your
5:30destiny it can be a detour look at
5:33somebody tell them it's a detour
5:36so they get to your destiny you must
5:40fulfill your purpose every one of you
5:43God has purpose for you he has purposely
5:48created you he has purposely put some
5:52plans in your life
5:54fulfilling your purpose will get you to
5:58your destiny
5:59fulfilling your purpose will get you to
6:03your destiny if God says I want you to
6:07become a a a preacher if I want you to
6:11become a banker if I want you to become
6:13a doctor if I want you to become a
6:15lawyer if I want you to become a judge
6:17if I want you to become a businesswoman
6:19or a businessman that was what God had
6:22purposely planned for you now in order
6:26for you to fulfill your purpose you have
6:30got to fulfill that and the word fulfill
6:32is a progressive word you've got to take
6:36up that responsibility and on a daily
6:38basis you've got to walk that round you
6:42have to take that journey and
6:45unfortunately most of us want the easy
6:47way out of life and that is the reason
6:51why we don't end up at our destiny we
6:54end up at a destination
6:56because guess what we like shortcuts we
7:00like to detour because guess what we
7:03think we know it all
7:06we think we can get there anyhow now
7:10maybe
7:11back to what I said before maybe from
7:15i-95 if you detour go west it's a good
7:18chance that going west end up at Dallas
7:20you can take another route another
7:24highway that will let you bypass North
7:27Carolina South Carolina Virginia and
7:30maybe end up somewhere that is northern
7:34or or the northern part of Virginia
7:36maybe but you see what you don't
7:38understand if you have any sense of the
7:41map of America
7:42you will understand it is much easier
7:45for you to keep going straight oh
7:49look at somebody tell them keep going
7:51straight
7:52you see your detour takes you longer to
7:56get to your destiny now I think some of
8:00you the problem is your detour you want
8:03to do sightseeing
8:05yes you know you're supposed to go to
8:07New York but you I want to see Dallas
8:10but but it's Dallas for you did God plan
8:12for you to go through Dallas huh you see
8:15God might be saying to some of you this
8:18is what I want for you this is the
8:20perfect relationship I want for you but
8:22some of you detour got the wrong man got
8:25the wrong woman got messed up why
8:27because you took a detour you didn't go
8:29straight
8:31I'm telling you I'm coming
8:33you didn't go straight
8:35you didn't follow the instructions of
8:38the Holy Ghost you didn't follow the
8:40instruction you didn't follow what God
8:41had in store for you and if I would take
8:44a survey today and if you'll be honest
8:46before God and if I would ask you how
8:49many of you if you could get an
8:51opportunity to press the rewind button
8:54in your life and rewind it 20 years back
8:57in the time and if you could get an
9:00opportunity to live those years over
9:03again come on you'll end up in your
9:05destiny come on you wouldn't end up in a
9:07destination and you know I'm telling the
9:09truth
9:14because we have made so many mistakes
9:18in our lives because we end up at a
9:23destination that is not our destiny
9:26so here the psalm is the same the Lord
9:30will perfect that which concern at me
9:32the Lord will perfect that which concern
9:36at me the things that he has perfectly
9:39planned for me he will perfect that
9:44thing in me because it concerning me I
9:49didn't plan it out he planned it out the
9:52scripture says that
9:54forsake not the works of thine hand he
9:57created me he had some plans for me and
10:01because he had some plans for me he is
10:04going to perfect that plan
10:06that he has mapped out in my life and
10:10many of us we are quickly taken up the
10:14responsibility of leading our lives our
10:18own way well I'm an adult
10:21so I'm gonna go where I want to go I
10:23want to do what I want to do I want to
10:25make decisions in my life when God is
10:29saying to you that he wants to control
10:32your life he wants to be the author and
10:35the finisher of your life now if he's if
10:39he created you and if he made you
10:41certainly he must have some good things
10:44for you because the Word of God also
10:47confirmed that statement by saying no
10:49good thing will
10:51he withhold
10:53from us his children see we think that
10:56God doesn't want to bless us we think
10:58that God doesn't want to give us good
11:00things but the Bible says no good thing
11:03no good thing will he withhold from us
11:07his children let me read on here it is
11:11the will of God for you to be all that
11:14he wants you to be you must also know
11:16that if that it is the will of the devil
11:20also to destroy you and it is the will
11:24of the devil to destroy what God has
11:26perfected in you John 10:10 clearly
11:30states that's what the devil wants to do
11:33he wants to kill you he wants to steal
11:36from you and he wants to destroy you but
11:39the Bible also says that Jesus said I
11:41come that you might have life and that
11:44you might have life more
11:47abundantly
11:49the gifts the talents that are in you is
11:53a trick to the devil he does not want
11:56you to be in the potter's house hear me
12:00ladies and gentlemen the devil doesn't
12:02want you to be in the potter's house he
12:05doesn't want you to put your hand your
12:07life in the hand of God he doesn't want
12:10God to be the master creator of your
12:13life he doesn't want God to control you
12:15he doesn't want God to map out your life
12:17he doesn't want God to order your steps
12:20because the moment God begins to order
12:23your steps the devil is in trouble what
12:25happens you won't obey Him because you
12:28see there's only one voice you'll become
12:30familiar with
12:31or help me here today and you see the
12:34devil is this a war going on right now
12:37the devil wants to ultimately destroy
12:39your life he wants to take everything
12:42that God has purposed in you he wants to
12:45take everything that God has put in you
12:47to perfect you because he would perfect
12:50that what's concerning me
12:53everything God has put in you the devil
12:57is after it he wants to destroy it and
13:00you have to wake up and look at reality
13:03and say to yourself that you cannot
13:05afford to allow yourself to control you
13:10you cannot afford to allow the devil to
13:13control you you cannot afford the devil
13:16to get your life to get ahold of your
13:19purpose to get ahold of your future
13:21because he will destroy that future and
13:2510 years will go by and you look back
13:28and you will say to yourself I wish
13:31I had listen I wish I could change
13:34things I wish I could just just do it
13:38all over again but how many you know
13:40most of the time is just too late
13:41because the Bible says you will reap
13:43what
13:45you sow not now you could burn it down
13:48you know you're like those people in the
13:51sugarcane industry they try to burn out
13:54McCain and and then they do that really
13:56just to reap the harvest you can burn
13:58all the bushes you want to burn but
14:01honey the fruit still is gonna stand up
14:03because that's the seed you saw
14:06watch this carefully here
14:08most of us are defeated because of the
14:12devil because we spend more time trying
14:15to comprehend why we're going through
14:17what we're going through we spend most
14:21of the time worried about the things
14:23that we're going through when God is
14:25trying to mature us and perfect us there
14:28are some things that God will lead you
14:30into and it's not an act of the devil
14:33sometimes God will allow you to go
14:36through a crisis God will allow you to
14:39go through a process God will allow you
14:42to get hurt he'll allow you to get hurt
14:45scriptures back then there are many
14:48prophets in the Bible that he allowed to
14:50go to a process but it wasn't to kill
14:52them it wasn't to destroy them it was
14:55for a reason God wanted to perfect them
14:58now you may say what you're going
15:00through God is trying to do to really
15:03hurt you or he doesn't care he's not
15:06concerned about you that's not true
15:08whatever you're going through God
15:11especially if it's God who leads you
15:14through that now not everything that you
15:16go through God led you through it
15:17because there are some things that we're
15:19going through things that we have
15:21disobeyed God on and now we're reaping
15:24what we sow so you've got to first of
15:29all do a cup kind of differentiate
15:32whether what is of God and what is of
15:35the devil or what did I allow myself to
15:38get involved with there's some issues in
15:41our lives that we have allowed ourselves
15:42to get involved in and we're gonna deal
15:45with those seven issues today those
15:47things will destroy us young people
15:50listen to me very carefully today this
15:52will help you there are things that if
15:55you don't listen today most of us we're
15:58young and we are active and we think
16:00that we know it all and we don't need
16:02that counsel of our seniors but hear me
16:05if you would listen to the advice of
16:07these seniors these elders that will
16:11counter you and tell you what they've
16:13been through half of the pitfalls that
16:16we have had in our lives we will never
16:18encounter them
16:20but we're a generation that doesn't want
16:23to listen because we go by our feelings
16:25or emotion they don't know what they're
16:27talking about they were living in the
16:29forties
16:30they were living in the 50s so they're
16:34old-fashioned
16:36old-fashioned
16:38old-fashioned I was watching a
16:41television commercial the other day and
16:45this person was interviewing this man in
16:49this woman and
16:51the woman that the man the interviewer
16:55said to the the old lady or the senior
16:59lady he said to her you know is it
17:03possible that
17:04over 65 sex can be good and the old lady
17:09looked and she said oh yes it can be
17:11good because mine's is good
17:14so the interviewer said what makes your
17:17sex life so good and she said because
17:20I've been married to my husband for
17:2240-something years and I tell you we've
17:25been through a lot but every day we
17:27learn to do it better and better and
17:30better and better then he asked for 65
17:33year old older woman do you take
17:35precaution do you put on a condom do you
17:38do you allow she said no there's no need
17:40because it's one man for 40-something
17:42years then the interviewer looked at the
17:46young fellow and said to him is it
17:49possible as a young man I believe he was
17:52in his twenty to enjoy sex he says sure
17:55enough baby it is good at 20 plus the
18:00interviewer said why do you say 20 plus
18:03is good at your age why do you say that
18:06he says man it is good I can get all the
18:09girls I want to give because it's good
18:12and you just go around and taste them
18:14so the old lady looked at him and said
18:17son you'll never get to my age at 65
18:21plus cuz you'll be dead before if you
18:23continue that
18:29now when she said that something just
18:32hit me
18:34it's old-fashioned
18:36[Laughter]
18:38old-fashioned Oh nobody want to listen
18:40to that no more the more the merrier
18:43but this lady said it's so well it will
18:47never get to be my age if you keep that
18:49up what do you saying preacher I'm
18:52saying if we would listen to our seniors
18:54if we would ever get back to the place
18:58where young people will honor their
19:01mother and father the Bible says your
19:03days to belong if you respect the elders
19:08if you would look not now sometimes they
19:12will say things that just don't make
19:14sense
19:16just don't make sense can't comprehend
19:19what they're saying because they may be
19:22still living back in the 50s and now
19:25it's the nine is however can't you see
19:29how
19:30long they live in
19:34do you notice now assume as if young
19:37people are dying
19:38and the seniors are living longer have
19:42you noticed that it's just young people
19:45young people we need to get back because
19:47God is gonna honor his word if young
19:50people begin to honor our seniors
19:53the Bible says our days will be long I
19:55don't care how much they may nag you and
19:58I know Bellamy they may say the same
20:00thing over and over and I know when I
20:03used to live in my parents house I was
20:05dying to get out
20:07come on don't look at me strange you
20:09know you you're dying to get out your
20:11cell
20:12you wanted to get out in the real world
20:14I can't wait till I'm 18 I can't wait
20:17til I become a man I can't wait till I
20:19become a woman to get out there on my
20:21own I'm tired of them telling me to come
20:24in and at 11 o'clock at night at 11
20:26o'clock I need to leave at 11 o'clock
20:35tired of them telling me to watch my
20:38friends watch my company how many of you
20:40come on when when your friends come to
20:41pick you up your mama will just pawn
20:43your finger and I how many times I'm
20:45gonna tell you show me your friends and
20:47I tell you who you are and
20:54you get sick of it and I see leave me
20:58alone the SEC of her telling me who to
21:01choose and who not to choose and
21:02especially when you talk about you're
21:06dating somebody
21:09baby I love you your parents will say to
21:11you baby I love you I want the best for
21:13you but I'm seeing further than you he
21:17doesn't mean anything for you he doesn't
21:19mean you any good oh mama be quiet man
21:22but you know
21:25you don't know nothing
21:28and you said no she she's just crazy cuz
21:32look papa he's on the port and he got
21:35his glasses and she's on the other side
21:37of the room
21:39so that you know their days are over so
21:41they ain't got no sense they don't know
21:43what is romance
21:49you don't listen to them but you know
21:52what you pay the price oh
21:54come on help me here how many of you
21:57right now I don't put your hand up
21:59because I don't want to embarrass you on
22:01international television about how many
22:03of you my god if you could go back and a
22:06hook and kiss your mama and grab her
22:08said mama I'm sorry I didn't listen to
22:10you
22:19I
22:22want you to know that
22:24verse seven of Psalm 138 David also said
22:29that though I walk in the mids of
22:31trouble God will revive me the NIV puts
22:36it this way but though I walk in the
22:38mids of trouble God will preserve my
22:41life
22:42so no matter what I go through though I
22:46walk in the midst of trouble God will
22:49preserve my life if God is leading me if
22:55he is giving me direction he will
22:58preserve my life I can't go wrong who is
23:03leading you this morning who is giving
23:07you direction today is it God or is it
23:10the devil well may I suggest to you if
23:13it's God he will preserve you nothing
23:16that you're going through God won't help
23:18you through that process because no good
23:21thing will he withhold from his children
23:23yes God will perfect your life he will
23:26preserve it from the evil one
23:28you were destined to have an abundant
23:31life you my friend can live a victorious
23:33life in the mids of challenges you are
23:37faced with on a daily basis God has
23:40created in you power he has put in you
23:43The Anointed One which is the Holy
23:45Spirit to give you power to exist on the
23:49earth to give you power to have dominion
23:52over the earth young people I want you
23:55to hear me today that if you would just
23:58listen to what God would have you to
24:01hear through this message you will avoid
24:03disasters in your life now I want you to
24:07look at some of the things that will
24:08destroy your destiny number one and I
24:11want you to write this down because
24:12these are powerful things that that I
24:14want to bring forth to you that will
24:16help you to avoid disaster in your life
24:20these are the seven things that will
24:22destroy your future number one lack of
24:25knowledge proverbs 1 verse 5 clearly
24:28tells us that you must seek the Lord for
24:31wisdom knowledge and
24:33understand it and that is the number one
24:36thing that is destroying people today
24:38lack of knowledge
24:40because there's a saying that there's a
24:43saying that says what you don't know
24:44won't kill you that is not true
24:47ignorance will destroy you
24:49when you don't know the truth but truth
24:51can't set you free and knowledge is the
24:54truth can somebody say Amen so lack of
24:57knowledge will destroy your destiny and
24:59when you don't have a lack of knowledge
25:02okay you have become a mister and a
25:06missus know-it-all
25:08have you known people like that I know
25:11it all nobody can talk to you so you
25:15live in your own make-believe world and
25:18nobody can impart into you nobody can
25:21counsel you nobody can lead you because
25:24you know it all what a sad case then
25:28this is the thing that will destroy many
25:30of you under lack of knowledge because
25:32of lack of knowledge you talk so much
25:34you listen less
25:36you've got an answer for everything
25:39everything you can answer you can defend
25:41yourself you talk so much you don't give
25:43somebody a chance to impart something
25:45into your life you go in a conversation
25:48you will dominate the conversation you
25:49don't allow somebody to talk and you
25:51will never learn anything listen to me
25:53ladies and gentlemen if you go to school
25:55and you go into the classroom and a
25:57teacher is trying to teach you something
25:59and all you're doing is getting up and
26:01tell them the teacher what to do you
26:03don't need that classroom you don't need
26:05that school
26:07you don't pay your tuition to go to a
26:10school to tell the teacher what you want
26:12to tell the teacher
26:13you pay to go to a school so that you
26:16can learn something and come out to be
26:18better and if we can instill that in our
26:22people today talk less listen more and
26:25even in your prayer life sometimes God
26:28is trying to talk to us but we are
26:30trying to talk to him God give me this
26:32God give me that I need a house I need a
26:34car I need a husband and he don't I need
26:36more money I need a better job I need my
26:38body to be healed and God is saying when
26:40are you gonna shut up and listen to me
26:46how many times as children how parents
26:50just keep
26:51talking talking talking talking talking
26:55talking every second and honey you pick
27:00up the garbage no mama when are you
27:04gonna do it I'm gonna do it soon by the
27:07time you go to pick up the garbage and
27:08honey did you rake the yard no mama I
27:12will rake the yard soon when are you
27:15gonna do it as soon as I pick up the
27:16garbage by the time you pick up the
27:18garbage to go rake the yard Anthony
27:21please don't pick up my slippers
27:24yes mama Anthony can you go to the store
27:28in a few minutes and before you know
27:30what you go behind closed door
27:35anybody's been there now I know you're
27:38religious so you ain't never talk back
27:39to your parents you see I couldn't do
27:41that to my parents I couldn't talk to
27:43them face to face
27:46you see I grew up in an environment I
27:49can't talk back to my mama and my daddy
27:52that's a no-no in their house the day I
27:58talk to them that's the day I die
28:04cuz there was some serious parents my
28:07mama mama look at me one day and she
28:09said boy don't you mess with me I've
28:11brought you here and I'll take you out
28:13of this world and that woman was dead
28:16serious
28:20you need to understand this sometimes
28:23people may sound nagging nagging nagging
28:29but they got the right stuff
28:31sometimes God even sounds as if he's
28:34nagging every time you come to church
28:38you're gonna you're saying to yourself
28:41God when are you gonna open doors
28:43when are you gonna bless me when are you
28:46gonna do that and it seemed as if every
28:48time God allow the preacher to bring
28:50something you really don't want to hear
28:52keep pounding that thing in your life
28:55keep pounding before you know what you
28:57get fed up you get frustrated you turn
29:01the television on the same message over
29:03and over have you ever gone home one day
29:06and you turn your television on to a
29:09station and the preacher begin to preach
29:11on a particular issue and you say oh I
29:13don't want to listen to that and before
29:15you know it you switch the channel there
29:17comes another preacher hitting the same
29:19message and you said my god I don't want
29:22to hear this and then you decide let me
29:24go to church because sure enough my
29:25preach I won't preach that and as you
29:27walk in the building and as a preacher
29:29opened his Bible yourself God have mercy
29:31help me now you must be after me
29:35because it's a same word
29:37God has given you a continuous word so
29:42that you can change your life lack of
29:44knowledge what cause you want to talk so
29:47much and listen less not only that
29:50having no respect for the elders and the
29:52seniors
29:53knowledge will help you to be successful
29:56in your personal life the more knowledge
29:59you have is the more you will
30:01communicate better in society is the
30:03more you become a competitive individual
30:06when you know it when you know your
30:08stuff when you go to school get a better
30:11education it's not that sometimes they
30:13don't want to promote you on the job
30:14it's because you're not qualified
30:17now you can use now I understand as a
30:20Christian as we we we kind of create
30:23monsters out of these issues and
30:32[Music]
30:37well salivation and how much tongues you
30:39can talk
30:41what will make you be competitive out
30:44there in the world as a Christian is
30:47when you go to that job and you've got
30:49the doctorate degree you've got that
30:51master's degree you've got that
30:52bachelor's degree and you can hold your
30:54head up bow and say yes I'm a time
30:56talkin believer but I've got my efforts
30:59in my work and my education to back me
31:02up
31:03I'm qualified not because I speak in
31:07tongues I'm qualified because look on
31:09the wall there's a black hang in there
31:11there's a certificate hang in there
31:15we get so superstitious
31:17as Christians we think we don't need to
31:20go to school oh I've got my BA degree
31:24born-again degree
31:29are you gonna need more than that
31:31born-again degree that's that's the most
31:34important degree you need to have in
31:36your life it's being born again but
31:38listen to me God has placed you on the
31:39earth to dominate to subdue the earth
31:42and the only way you're gonna subdue it
31:44and denominator the earth and to
31:46influence the earth you have gotta
31:52have knowledge when you have knowledge
31:55you can become very competitive
31:56knowledge will assist you in
31:59appreciating who you are and will make
32:02you an asset to your relationship and
32:05not a liability
32:06all the relationships that you encounter
32:09whether it be a friendship whether it be
32:12an intimate relationship knowledge will
32:16make you to be an asset and not a
32:19liability
32:21knowledge in a relationship will help
32:24you to be an asset and not a liability
32:28see because when you don't have
32:31knowledge you're a trip to someone who
32:33has knowledge
32:34because you after why because you have
32:37no knowledge you're gonna criticize
32:40jealousy will kick in come on because if
32:44you and I have the same level of cars
32:45why you tell us over me
32:49see that's why people would well very
32:53seldom hang around with broke folks
32:57because they've worked hard for their
32:59assets and they're not about to enjoy
33:02their assets with friends who's gonna
33:04come over to their house and in
33:05criticize every time when they buy stuff
33:07criticize every time when they talk
33:09about millions of dollars
33:11no that becomes a liability why you got
33:14to put up with that but you see when
33:16you're on equal grounds
33:18go on the golf course come on when you
33:21go in the garbage you'll be amazed what
33:23kind of business is discussed on the
33:25golf course because almost everybody on
33:29the Golf Course is equal at the same
33:32level doctors and businessmen I told you
33:34the story before I went to the dog
33:36course one time and I was there and I
33:39saw this gentleman dirty jeans torn-up
33:41jeans and you see that's the mistake
33:43with a lot of us we assess people
33:47based on how they look so there I wasn't
33:50the golf course and this man didn't have
33:52a no brand-name clothes and look raggedy
33:54and dirty and they're torn up jeans
33:57can I said boy you know he's really bad
34:01he's awful I mean God he couldn't wear
34:04something better
34:05and you should see the shoes I mean my
34:08god the shoes he was wearing torn up
34:11golf shoes I've been torn up dirty
34:15then I watched him and in my mind I was
34:18saying now I'm feeling big great cause
34:22you know what I had on me a nice golf
34:25shoes that someone gave me I held on me
34:28my knives go that's my nice go shirt
34:31everything and yeah I mean I was all
34:33dicta I had me about $300 worth of
34:36outfit on me
34:40so I thought I was it man I have arrived
34:47and there comes a man and his wife cuz I
34:51found out it was his wife after she
34:53walked up and as they were passing they
34:56said hi dr. so-and-so
35:03doctor and they kept talking and
35:07he looked at him and said how you doing
35:11and the man not the who was doctor was
35:15not the man in the torn-up jeans the man
35:17that was the doctor he and his wife
35:19walked up and looked at the torn-up man
35:21that that had the jeans on the tone of
35:24jeans and said to him how many millions
35:27did you make last week
35:30the man in the on the golf course the
35:33man in the tone of jeans that I thought
35:38I
35:40had everything over here look at the
35:44doctors and said a couple of million as
35:47if it's a couple of cents
35:51change
35:53that totally changed my thinking from
35:57that day on people
36:00not always when you see people look like
36:03they don't have it they don't have it
36:05because you know what I found out true
36:06rich people doesn't
36:10[Applause]
36:16so most of us
36:18because of the lack of knowledge we're
36:21not an asset we can't hang around people
36:24that are an asset to us it's more of a
36:26liability listen to me ladies and
36:28gentlemen listen to me I can't still a
36:30lot of people that want to get married
36:32and this is the thing that I always tell
36:34them to ask their spouse what do you
36:37bring in to the table
36:38what are you bringing to the table come
36:41on you can't just live in love alone
36:43baby
36:44now as much as I'm deeply in love with
36:47you and my feeling is telling me that I
36:52need you what are you offering me
36:55what are you gonna bring to the table
36:58are you an asset to my relationship are
37:02you a liability and some of you are
37:05involved with people in your life that
37:07are a liability to you and not an asset
37:09and they will destroy your destiny
37:14if many of us would tell the truth this
37:16morning we will honestly say there are
37:18many people in our lives right now that
37:23if we could change
37:24time
37:26it wouldn't be in the situation we're in
37:28because right now you're married to
37:30somebody that's a liability
37:33now don't say Amen
37:36but it's the truth I'm gonna hit you
37:39with all of this today it is the truth
37:41you're destroying your destiny it's
37:44especially those of you that are single
37:46you need to hear this need to ask
37:49yourself the question I'm in love yes my
37:51feelings I know what my body is telling
37:53me I know what my body is telling me but
37:56what is this pocket telling me I
38:02didn't even listen to this it would help
38:05you it would avoid some pitfalls in your
38:07life it will avoid disasters in your
38:09life don't get excited about your
38:11feelings coz feelings come and go
38:14feelings last 10 minutes 20 minutes 30
38:17minutes 45 minutes an hour however you
38:19can lash
38:21feelings only less for a while but when
38:24you talk about your life you live with
38:28somebody when you marry somebody and you
38:31say till death
38:33do you know what you're saying till
38:37death
38:38that means if you live the next 50 years
38:42you're willing to marry you're willing
38:45to stick with that person for the next
38:4650 years do you know what it costs to
38:50take care of you for the next 50 years
38:58well the next 50 years ladies do you
39:00know what it ever it costs for you to
39:02take your home
39:04now you notice I didn't get an amen
39:08do you know how much effort
39:1150 years you've got to be a wife and I'm
39:15not saying a slave and wife the man's
39:18got to be a husband in the next 50 years
39:20it takes a lot of effort not feelings
39:23not feelings because most people can
39:26tell you after the wonderful sex
39:30reality kicks in oh
39:34love it see
39:39let me move on here because I see some
39:42folks looking at me strange knowledge
39:45will help you to be successful in your
39:48intimate life it will help you and teach
39:51you when today how to date what's times
39:55to look for that will reveal that that
39:59person is no good for you
40:01but there's some common signs no spirit
40:04you don't need no revelation common
40:06sense some of you don't have no sense at
40:09all common sense there's some simple
40:12things and all around the world that is
40:14watching today comments and just some
40:16simple things my god if the man ain't
40:18never takes you to his mama never take
40:21it to his house and never introduce it
40:23to his family and you've been dating him
40:25for two years
40:26come on that is just no sense
40:33that's no sense
40:36are you talking about he loves you gonna
40:38marry to you know
40:4010 years you've been with the man
40:4315 years you've been with the man and
40:47he's never said to you let's get married
40:52oh well well bishop you know you know I
40:55just not gonna push him you know one of
40:58these days you know I know that the Lord
41:00is gonna speak into his life yeah the
41:02local speak to him he gonna marry
41:03somebody else and left your little
41:06behind down the street
41:07[Applause]
41:12yeah he's gonna look for some new chick
41:14down the block something fresh something
41:17new Oh Lord he gonna be going down the
41:21street revive me again Lord
41:28number two
41:30anxiety Philippians 4:6 7 talks about
41:34that being stuff for nothing and you get
41:37anxious for over silly things it will
41:39destroy your life their little news you
41:41get you get anxious and you get you can
41:43just start getting scared and then
41:45everything no be anxious for nothing
41:47learn to get bad news and throw your
41:51hands up in the air and say God you're
41:53gonna make a way somehow
41:56no matter when I go through god you're
41:58gonna be with me number 3 the third
42:01thing is disorganization the Bible says
42:05to let everything be done decently and
42:07in order the problem is a lot of us have
42:10no plan agender we don't plan our lives
42:13out can you imagine right now some of
42:17you at a young age you may be 16 you may
42:20be 17 and you really don't have a
42:22planned a gender in your life how sad
42:26that is don't have a plan agender don't
42:29know what college you're gonna go
42:31doesn't know you don't know what career
42:33you're gonna pursue
42:35no have no idea I'm you know what your
42:38future holds do you want to get married
42:40how many children do you want to have no
42:42plan agenda you just live in one day at
42:44a time sweet Jesus that's all I'm asking
42:49of you just let me live one day at a
42:51time that's the sad case one day at a
42:54time it's not enough
42:55God wants you to
42:58plan out your life order your steps in
43:02his word
43:03regardless of your age you should have a
43:06five-year plan what do I want to achieve
43:08from today to the next five years do I
43:12want to achieve and to become maybe a
43:15business owner a business man do I want
43:17to gain
43:19$20,000 more than what I'm earning this
43:22year in the next five years I want to go
43:2520 more thousand more so that means if
43:27you're gonna earn 21,000 in five years
43:31that means you're gonna do a lot of work
43:33honey there's a lot of effort you may be
43:36working 25,000 hours per year but in
43:39five years clover - God you now work 45
43:43thousand a year gonna have a dream
43:46number four oh this is this this one I'm
43:50telling you a lot of us is experiencing
43:52that one insufficient funds
43:56not having enough money to do what you
43:58want to do and many of the reason why
44:01many of you your destiny is going to be
44:04destroyed is because of the lack of
44:06finances and the lack of finances have
44:08nothing to do with God not blessing you
44:12the reason is you're under curse you
44:15have not honored God with your substance
44:17come on and I know we don't like to hear
44:20it it becomes very offensive to many of
44:22us I don't wanna hear a preacher talk
44:24about money because that's all he wants
44:26but we're not willing to honor the Word
44:28of God we have become a group of people
44:31that don't want to hear the truth
44:33when nobody is arguing about the
44:36electrical company
44:37nobody argues about the telephone
44:39company when you get your bill
44:42and God has been faithful to you God has
44:45blessed you rich with the unmagic
44:49because you've not honor your vows his
44:52word kicks in and his word is activated
44:54in your life there's a curse upon your
44:56life and there as a results you have
44:59insufficient funds number five no
45:02integrity
45:04when no one can trust you when your word
45:08is not your bond listen to me ladies and
45:12gentlemen listen to me whether you're a
45:14Christian or a non-christian when people
45:17cannot trust you you will never get to
45:20your destination
45:21you will never get to your destiny
45:24because God uses people
45:27to bless you and if they can't trust you
45:31they'll hold back the blessings
45:35integrity is so important it's not all
45:38about money it's not all about prestige
45:40it's about integrity and
45:44somebody trusts your word
45:48can somebody trust your word if they
45:51loan you $50
45:53you say you're gonna pay it back
45:56Lord this feeling heat wave just
46:01came in here a while ago
46:04will you pay it back
46:07integrity
46:09integrity
46:10your honor your mouth I love you and
46:16you're the only one
46:17there's integrity there how many others
46:21have you told the same thing oh you
46:23don't want me to go there Oh
46:25number six now I'm getting close to
46:28number six now this is a bomb get ready
46:31hold your seatbelt here it comes number
46:34six marrying the right person
46:44I
46:45just want that to settle in for a moment
46:49listen to me when you marry the wrong
46:52person
46:52you're gonna need amazing grace
46:57Lord helped me here I hope you're
47:01watching by television I'm telling you
47:02whenever you marry the wrong person I am
47:06Telling You it will destroy your destiny
47:09I'm telling you it's like torment living
47:13in total misery every day you get up and
47:17you recognize that you marry the wrong
47:19woman
47:20you recognize you marry the wrong man
47:21and sometimes you're just stop
47:26stop because of the children stop
47:29because you can't pay the bills by
47:31yourself
47:35stop because you're worried about what
47:38the church is gonna say because I can't
47:40get a divorce
47:45marrying the wrong person
47:49that is why it's so important that you
47:52don't get excited with your feelings
47:56and it's never too late but before I
47:59even go to those of you that already in
48:00the mills
48:03let me help those of you that
48:06aren't in the MIS yet but if you're not
48:09careful you end up in the mix that is
48:12why it's so important that you enjoy
48:14your single life don't let anybody put
48:18no tag on you and tell you you're
48:20different just because you ain't got no
48:22wife or you ain't got no husband gotta
48:25be glad that's your single free and
48:28ain't nobody around you to antagonize
48:31you and to drive you nuts to drive you
48:33crazy you don't have to answer to nobody
48:35you have to come in no certain time you
48:37have to leave no note for nobody you can
48:39go wherever you want to go you can walk
48:40wherever you want to walk you can wear
48:42whatever you want to wear because you
48:44are single and
48:45[Applause]
48:47ZAR your single life don't you walk
48:50around with your head down and and you
48:52let oh god I'm a single what's wrong
48:54with me now be happy look at somebody
48:57that single said be happy
49:02enjoy your single life
49:05goddess bless you my god you can pick
49:10yourself up and go to Popeyes Wendy's
49:13McDonald's if you can and answer to
49:16nobody
49:17enjoy it
49:20go read it God and
49:23giant man don't let nobody put you in a
49:27box be glad you can go to a clock and
49:31bed in the mall and and don't have to
49:32worry about nobody putting their legs on
49:34you come on Patton you
49:36[Applause]
49:42Clos Raider guy
49:45hallelujah
49:48glory to God
49:50now for those of you that in the mists
49:56you don't listen
49:59you end up marrying the wrong person
50:03tormented and listen to me you don't
50:06understand this many of you think
50:08divorce is a solution sometimes divorce
50:10is the beginning of the hell in your
50:11life
50:14because it's dangerous when you think
50:17I'm just gonna marry and if it don't
50:19work out divorce the two of you will
50:22work so hard
50:23buy a house buy a car
50:26have children by furnitures by this by
50:30that
50:31end of the divorce
50:36you left sleeping in your car down
50:40Bayside somewhere
50:43because you've lost everything no one
50:45wins in a divorce
50:48especially when they're children
50:50involved
50:52you'll be surprised the emotional stress
50:55that we put in children in a divorce
50:59number seven and I close
51:05when you begin to worry about life so
51:08much that you can't even enjoy it
51:13when you are sitting there
51:16worried about the unpaid bills
51:19worried about how you look there's some
51:22people are so miserable
51:24then what about how they look and I'm
51:27satisfied with himself they're not
51:29satisfied with where they live
51:32he's not satisfied with their job then I
51:35decided five because not enough money
51:37and they're so one they don't even have
51:40enough time to enjoy my can you imagine
51:44the blessings that God have bestowed
51:46upon you look at you as a young person
51:49how are you
51:55gonna sit there and let certain they're
51:59they'll shout
52:01the telephone company the light company
52:04the electrical company your mortgage
52:06stretch you out
52:10you mean tell me you not gonna enjoy all
52:12right you're gonna sit there and you're
52:15gonna walk around there feed it you
52:18gonna you mean tell me you you're
52:19willing to work for the next ten years
52:21on your job and go to your job for the
52:24next ten years complaining
52:30you got so much problems you can't even
52:33enjoy life and that's what the devil
52:35wants to do he wants to destroy you
52:38but I want you to tell that devil that
52:42regardless of what I'm going through I
52:44am going to rejoice for David says I
52:47will bless the law
52:49already
52:54somebody oughta praise him in here today
52:56his praise shall
52:59continually somebody oughta bless his
53:02name today stand on your feet everybody
53:05and bless his name he's were there
53:10already god
53:13he's worthy of all praises
53:17I'm gonna blast him I'm gonna blast him
53:21I'm not gonna worry about life's problem
53:24father will take care of that if the
53:27Lord is keeping you what are you gonna
53:29worry about he is the author and the
53:32finisher of your faith he is your
53:35Redeemer somebody oughta stock chlorine
53:38a god
53:39hallelujah Oh
53:42hallelujah
53:44every day you get up out of your bed you
53:47want to get up and you oughta stop this
53:49is the day that the law
53:51has me that I will rejoice in this day
53:54regardless if I don't have enough money
53:57I'm gonna rejoice in this thing why
53:59because the Lord is gonna make her way
54:01the Lord will make away somehow look at
54:05somebody tell them the Lord will back
54:07away somehow
54:10yes he will yes he will
54:13yes he will he'll make away if he did it
54:17in the past he'll do it again
54:20somebody praise him in here this morning
54:25hallelujah come on already god
54:29bless this thing give you braise this
54:33phone
54:34hallelujah
54:35lift your hands as we pray father in the
54:38name of Jesus
54:40have released to your people the seven
54:43things